Monday, 24 October 2022

The Trouble With Twaddle

 A haar is a wonderfully Scottish kind of thing. It caters for a furtive, reticent temperament: for folk who like to keep themselves to themselves. It only occurs on the coast and is something to do with the temperature of the air and the sea.  It’s not a fog and it’s not a mist and it is certainly not a fug. It’s a haar and it can limit visibility to just the tenements across the street. This particular morning it is so thick that from Portobello beach you can see no sign of the East Neuk of Fife or Berwick Law. One feels one can lose oneself in a haar…

Why did he have to use such pretentious language asked Twaddle to himself? ‘One feels one can lose oneself..!’

This was typical of him: always trying to show off. Language, music, humour, it was all the same. I’m the best, look at me! It is an attitude that does not serve him well. Even the folk at the spooky church were less welcoming to him than perhaps they could be, and, who knows? maybe even folk on the spirit side were tired of his presence. To be shunned by the undead. Wouldn’t that be the ultimate brush-off?

The Mark of Cain which he had never been able to brush off alongside this showoffiness proved a socially toxic combination. Cain had been cursed by God for killing his brother which is indeed rather a weight to carry through life, but Twaddle felt he had been cursed by something far more subtle i.e. his own best intentions. His own personal Mark of Cain was his eagerness to please and impress. He succeeded in the first in being a friendly and personable figure but really quite quickly pushed folk away by ‘over-succeeding’ in the second. Thus, if he played his wee set, for instance, at the local MIND cafĂ© in town of a Saturday, he showed himself to be TOO funny and charismatic and SO bloody talented and accomplished that pretty soon the regulars wished he’d stop turning up at all as he made them all feel more depressed/insecure/insufficient than they had been when they woke up that morning.

So that was the undead and the mentally unwell taken care of. Who else could he be disenfranchised from?

What if I were to tell you that even cats gave him the cold shoulder. Towards the very arse end of his last doomed relationship, he shared a small flat in an ancient building with a reluctant girlfriend and her two cats, one of which was a runt and the other the veritable Marilyn Monroe of flouncy moggies. Twaddle tried everything to endear himself to these beasts (probably to win favour with their owner) but even the runt avoided him, and the Marilyn Monroe would literally fart in his face, an emanation which produced a stink so noxious that it woke you up if you were sleeping, your eyes stinging as if assaulted by teargas.

His paranoia knew no bounds by this time, and he became convinced the cats were acting under his girlfriend’s orders in a further attempt to prise him from her life (she’d already broken a prized mirror very violently and made him sleep on the living room couch).

His problems with women stretched back further than this. The difficulty was that he charmed them so much initially that it was impossible to maintain the performance and they quickly saw that behind the veneer was a mass of complicated insecurities and a character so frail that it could barely cope with the fortitudes of life at all and was merely looking for a mother-figure to look after it. They wondered if maybe he was actually a typically Italian male with a Scottish accent!


Tuesday, 18 October 2022

Transference


There is a monster residing within Adam Barton, a malevolent presence that he will never, ever admit exists, not even to a whole plethora of Cognitive Behavioural Therapists or person-centred counsellors. While his overall persona is personable, liberal and perfectly acceptable although rarely what you’d call ‘chummy’, the monster is snappy – aggressively so – and bullying. It is moody, defensive, wilfully obstructive and scary-tense. You feel you ought to ‘pretend to be busy’ in its presence as if it is somehow your boss or an employer who loathes lethargy.

If the monster suddenly doesn’t want you in its presence you’ll find yourself walking the wet streets for hours until it has left the area or gone to sleep.

It is the monster/elephant in the room. It exists but is never acknowledged. Indeed, if you dared to even hint at its existence it would be you who would appear somehow deluded and wrong-headed.

The appearance of the monster makes you yearn for the ‘nice Adam’ to reappear; the humorous, gentle, eager-to-please Adam. Why must the monster get to hold sway and keep us all on edge?

And what on earth does Adam say to all these therapists he sees?

Do they get to see the monster?

No. Not a chance!

There’s no talking to the monster.